The Type of Retrospective You Aren’t Doing (But Should Be)

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You’ve likely heard of the term retrospective. Maybe you host retrospective meetings with your staff or in your executive roundtables. A retrospective is a backwards glance at something that has happened or at a project that has wrapped up. The intent is to assess what went right (and therefore what should be done again in the future) and what went wrong (and how to avoid making those mistakes again).

There’s a specific type of retrospective that I’d like to discuss − in fact, I created it.

It’s called a conflict retrospective.

Essentially, this means looking back at a recent conflict to consider how it unfolded. More specifically, it means identifying where you as a leader get hooked and trapped in these situations and building more effective strategies to handle similar situations going forward.

We do retrospectives after finishing a project… why not do one after mediating a conflict?

Here are the ways you may be getting trapped when experiencing conflict in your business:

Engaging in the battle instead of walking away

Jumping into the ring instead of watching from the stands

Needing to be right instead of being happy

Correcting others because they MUST know the truth

It’s time to take a look at your conflict patterns and to understand what keeps messing you up every time there’s a problem. From there, you can learn to handle conflicts more effectively, efficiently and without ruining your day. And as an added bonus, your team will thank you.

Frame of Mind Coaching™ specializes in identifying the patterns that are getting in the way of your success… including conflict patterns.

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Kim is the President & Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching™ & JournalEngine™ Software, an executive coach & a supermom of 5.

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